Have you ever wondered why when things are going well, other things began to go bad? For example, when you’re happy and negative thoughts begin to take over your mind. What about when you set a goal, reach that goal, then a friend or family member turns their back on you? There are pros and cons to life, no matter what we do or how we do them. Have you ever heard the saying, “No matter what you do, good or bad, someone will find something wrong.” That’s a true statement. I’ve always said, do what you want and be who you want to be because not everyone is going to like or approve. You can’t have success without cons. This doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy your success, but you can only enjoy it if you understand the cons, first. Here is what you need to understand about success.
The way we think is based on many factors. Those factors consist of who we hang around, what we watch on television, what we eat, etc. Negative thinking could and will randomly happen when you least expect it. I like to call that an “attack.” This is your mind attacking you from the inside. All the things we allow inside will eventually come out some way, somehow. Most negative things we allow on the inside will come out through our actions, how we treat others, how we spend our time, and the most crucial one, our mindset. Your mindset is the most important factor to your success. It determines how far you’ll go in life. Which brings me to my next point. Disapproval from others. To be successful, you’re going to have to change. It may not feel right or be easy, but you have to grow in every aspect of your life to reach your highest potential. Here are five crucial factors that affect your mindset:
- Your environment (neighborhood, household, church, etc.).
- Your circle (friends, family members, influences, etc.).
- Your entertainment (music, television shows, reading material. etc.).
- Your mindset (your character, your personality, how you treat others, decisions, habits, etc.).
- How you think of yourself and how you treat YOU. People will treat you how you treat yourself.
Disapproval from others:
Disappointment usually comes from wanting to be loved and accepted by those you love and care for the most. You’re human, so it’s okay to feel this way and want this from close friends and family. However, this can also thwart you from achieving success because you become addicted to wanting it from them, so that becomes your focus. You can’t expect to reach new heights in life and take people who aren’t meant to be there, with you. This is why maturing and allowing yourself to change is important. You have to be strong enough to accept this and move on from it. There is no other way. Many people can’t handle not being invited to things, people not liking them, people talking about them, or people discrediting their success, character, and reputation. So, they give up on what’s important to them to become successful and give in to their enemies. There are willing to do what their enemies what them to do, act how they want them to act, and be someone they’re not because it’s easier. However, it will affect them later in life. You will lose close friends. Your circle will become small. Those you love may give up on you. It’s all part of the process. Remember, what’s meant for you will eventually find its way back.
The thought of fear:
Fear is the downfall of success. You can fear being successful and you can fear the feeling of failure of not becoming successful. At the end of the day, we all fear what others may think about our lives and what we choose to do with it. People tend to treat you how they see you. This is why so many people work hard to appear successful, but realistically, they are not. Success is a term we use to define who we are and what we have achieved. Many people never become what they would like to become in life because they fear what may happen or not happen. Others fear success because they can’t handle what comes with success. Either way, you may have to deal with things that are uncomfortable but it’s part of the journey. Not allowing yourself to deal with the uncertainty will stop you from growing and maturing into the person you need to be to achieve your success. Allowing it will teach you things about yourself and life that will be beneficial to your future.
The Top Ten Things you will go through being successful:
- Having haters and others praying and wanting you to fail
- Uncertainty of what to do next or how to do it
- Uncertainty of where you are going and how
- Failure and the embarrassment, shame, and guilt you may feel from it
- Lost of friends, family, and those you care for the most
- Fear of making the same mistakes
- Making the same mistakes
- Stages of instability
- Fear it may not work out
- Feelings of regret, failure, uncertainty, and fear