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Four Ways to Get Through Your Healing Process

At some point in life, you’ll have to heal from your past to have a happy and prosperous life. As you go through this journey, you’ll experience setbacks, newly discovered emotions, and fear of the unknown. There may be a period throughout your journey where you’re not quite sure what’s going on. You may feel uneasy and unsure, but that’s the time you should buckle down and push yourself harder than before. Below is a list of things you will experience while healing, but understand these things are normal and necessary.

#1) You won’t know where to start, but get started anyway.

⁃ The moment you decide you want to heel, begin the journey. It doesn’t matter where you are in life, career, money, or relationships. Those things could have an effect on you at the beginning, but when you begin your healing process- take time to decide which step you want to take first.

#2) You don’t know how long the healing process will take, so don’t try to figure it out.

⁃ When I started my healing journey, I had no idea it would take me two years to heal. But, here’s the twist. It took me another 3-4 years to accept my new life and adjust to it. My journey was hard, but I learned a lot about emotions, people, healing from traumatic experiences, and most importantly, I learned how to enjoy my life while healing.

#3) Once you start your journey, SET BOUNDARIES.

⁃ Have you ever heard the saying, “You can’t heal where you hurt.” This is a true statement. You can make the necessary changes to your life in the same environment that hurt you. Many of us had to learn this early in life. If you wait too long, you may miss your window. How we are raised or where we grow up has an effect on how we are molded. Anything and anyone that is harmful to your journey, you need to let it or them go. EVEN IF IT HURTS.

#4) Don’t decide to heal for someone else. DO THIS FOR YOU.

⁃ DON’T WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK OR HOW THEY FEEL WHEN YOU DECIDE TO DO WHAT’S BEST FOR YOU. Once you decide to change, many people will try to convince you not to in many negative ways. For example, they will stop talking to you. They will laugh and talk about you. They will try to make your journey harder for you. Don’t worry. The change you are making makes them feel less in control of you. They don’t like it because their control over you is what they depended on to make them feel better about themselves. Do you.

When I was on my journey, I’ll never forget asking God when everything I am going through would make sense. At times, I would get discouraged for going backwards. The most disappointing thing I faced was feeling bad Overtime, I learned to understand to accept it and move on. If I got mad, irritated, or angry, I would feel bad. However, this is part of healing from your past. You will experience emotions you’ve never experienced or haven’t experienced in a long time. If you want a new life, start your healing now. You got this. Write down where you want to be and work towards that goal.

How to Deal With Being at the Bottom

First, YOU ARE NOT AT THE BOTTOM. If someone makes you feel that you are or tells you that you are, that has nothing to do with you. They have the problem. People tend to put others in categories because they are trying to decide how to treat you. It’s a combination of fear, jealousy, and insecurities within them and unfortunately, people don’t want to see you shine because you have something they lack.

Remember, it’s not about where you are from, what you have, or who you know. It’s all about having the right mindset and pushing through challenges and adversity to reach your goals. Keep in mind, most of those people are living a pretend life.

Here are the top five reasons why people hate on you after failing to defeat you:

  1. You improved.
  2. You surpassed them.
  3. They passed on you, so now they hate on you.
  4. You weren’t supposed to become anything.
  5. You stepped away from the nonsense. You escaped and survived. Your haters didn’t.

Here is how to deal with not feeling good enough:

DON’T

“When people can’t control you, they “try” to control your reputation. Those who believe them, were not for you.”

“People hate on your ability to reach what they can’t touch. That’s not your problem. If they want it, they should work hard to get reach it. Just like you.”

“People pretend to support you when they feel they can’t be defeated or until, you defeat them.”

“If you live a life pretending to be someone you’re not, you’ll always have to be that person to make progress. Isn’t it smarter to be you and allow what or who is meant to be in your life, come to you?”

“What’s meant for you is what’s meant for you. No matter what others say, think or do, it won’t stop your purpose. Focus on you.”

“Having haters means you are doing something right.”

“Criticism is self-hate turned outward.”

“When they see strength in you, they begin to see weaknesses within themselves. Let them deal with that. It’s not your responsibility.”

“Fuck them.”

How To Live For YOU

You should push to live for YOU every day. Happiness comes from within, so if you’re looking for happiness in your career, family, friends, titles, etc., then you’re going to be disappointed all the time. Happiness is a good thing, but nothing beats being in love with yourself. Ten or twenty years from now, when you look at your life, being proud of your success and who you’ve become will be one of the most pivotal moments of your life- if you live YOUR life. The majority don’t know how to think for themselves. This is why you see so many people doing the same things. Why not stand out?

How do you know if you aren’t living for YOU:

Everyone likes you.

You make decisions based on what others “may” think.

You can’t think for yourself.

You have to be around everyone and everything all the time.

You can’t be alone.

You don’t who are or who you want to be.

You hold back because you don’t want to lose people.

You’re a follower, not a leader.

Living your truth is really important to your success and your future. If you are willing to accept what comes with choosing you, then my next point will help you get there. In order to live for you, you first have to think for yourself. Thinking for yourself begins with the way your subconscious thinks. This development begins early in life and is affected by your environment, your circle of friends, family, and experiences. Read my blog post on how to reprogram your subconscious.

https://myekajohnsoninc.com/2019/01/24/reprogramming-the-subconscious-for-your-new-journey/

What programs your subconscious?

Your circle

What you watch on televison

What you read and study

Your experiences. If your experiences are bad, to reprogram your subconscious, you need to create new and positive experiences.

Your words. “The words that come from your mouth, you’re the first to hear.” – India Arie

Your decisions

How you handle certain situations

Relationships

How you spend your time

Living for YOU requires you to be rejected and lose people in your life. That’s okay. This process is about you and if you’re the chosen one, it won’t matter later anyway. What’s meant to be, will be. Everyone isn’t going to like you or be for you. Whenever you are set to do BIG things, you lose those you love the most, first. It’s a test. The higher you go, the stronger the test. Below are two blog posts that could help you understand why this happens and how to deal with it.

https://myekajohnsoninc.com/2019/11/07/how-to-succeed-the-non-traditional-way/

https://myekajohnsoninc.com/2019/04/28/i-am-a-woman-and-i-am-in-leadership/

If you want to live for YOU, then Do YOU. Fuck what others think or how they feel. Most of the time, they are jealous. They can’t do it or are afraid to, so they try to stop you. When they realize they can’t stop you, then they copy you. Jealousy is real and people have done crazy things out of jealousy. If they aren’t trying to help you, then leave them alone and do what you need to do to have a great life and to be happy. You aren’t responsible for their life.

How I Survived as a Young Girl Without a Mother

Many of you have heard my story about growing up without my mother in my household. All teenagers need both parents to teach them about adulthood. Unfortunately, some of us don’t have that option. A parent may have died. Parents may have gotten a divorce or one parent left the family. In my case, my parents got a divorce and my dad received custody of my brother and me. Both of my parents were dysfunctional, but my dad still received custody.

My household was not normal. Neither of my parents were educated. We didn’t have money. We lived in poverty. Both of my parents lacked normal life skills, but knew some of the basic life skills needed to barely survive. This was the usual within my extended family and environment. This motivated me to want more, so I taught myself how to be the woman I wanted to be. Before I go into what I did to survive, I’m going to list the struggles I had to overcome to survive, first:

Family

Jealousy/Competition

Lack of support/Choosing who to support

Rumors/Lies

Rape

Insults/Down playing your goals and dreams

Personal

Motherless household

Lack of resources

Lived in poverty

Uneducated parents

Despite the struggles I had to overcome first, I was able to teach myself the basics of survival. Here’s how:

I read a lot of books to learn about life and people.

I took every opportunity that came my way so I could learn about the world and develop skills that would benefit later in life.

I asked questions every chance I got.

I paid close attention to how people were around me and pushed myself not to become how they were.

To balance my mental health, I wrote down my feelings, goals and dreams, struggles, and much more daily .

I knew what I wanted to do in life, so I only focused on the things I knew would get me there and I didn’t allow the things that wouldn’t into my life.

Growing up without my mother in my household was hard, but dealing with family members who used your circumstances against you was even harder. The same people who put me in the position used my struggles as a young woman against me and refused to help. If you start off in the struggle, without resources, your family coming against you, living in poverty, and lack of support- It’s going to make the process of survival even harder. I had to live to live to survive first, before I was able to live.

The Mindset of Success

Have you ever wondered why when things are going well, other things began to go bad? For example, when you’re happy and negative thoughts begin to take over your mind. What about when you set a goal, reach that goal, then a friend or family member turns their back on you? There are pros and cons to life, no matter what we do or how we do them. Have you ever heard the saying, “No matter what you do, good or bad, someone will find something wrong.” That’s a true statement. I’ve always said, do what you want and be who you want to be because not everyone is going to like or approve. You can’t have success without cons. This doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy your success, but you can only enjoy it if you understand the cons, first. Here is what you need to understand about success.

Negative thinking:

The way we think is based on many factors. Those factors consist of who we hang around, what we watch on television, what we eat, etc. Negative thinking could and will randomly happen when you least expect it. I like to call that an “attack.” This is your mind attacking you from the inside. All the things we allow inside will eventually come out some way, somehow. Most negative things we allow on the inside will come out through our actions, how we treat others, how we spend our time, and the most crucial one, our mindset. Your mindset is the most important factor to your success. It determines how far you’ll go in life. Which brings me to my next point. Disapproval from others. To be successful, you’re going to have to change. It may not feel right or be easy, but you have to grow in every aspect of your life to reach your highest potential. Here are five crucial factors that affect your mindset:

  1. Your environment (neighborhood, household, church, etc.).
  2. Your circle (friends, family members, influences, etc.).
  3. Your entertainment (music, television shows, reading material. etc.).
  4. Your mindset (your character, your personality, how you treat others, decisions, habits, etc.).
  5. How you think of yourself and how you treat YOU. People will treat you how you treat yourself.

https://myekajohnsoninc.com/2019/01/24/reprogramming-the-subconscious-for-your-new-journey/

Disapproval from others:

Disappointment usually comes from wanting to be loved and accepted by those you love and care for the most. You’re human, so it’s okay to feel this way and want this from close friends and family. However, this can also thwart you from achieving success because you become addicted to wanting it from them, so that becomes your focus. You can’t expect to reach new heights in life and take people who aren’t meant to be there, with you. This is why maturing and allowing yourself to change is important. You have to be strong enough to accept this and move on from it. There is no other way. Many people can’t handle not being invited to things, people not liking them, people talking about them, or people discrediting their success, character, and reputation. So, they give up on what’s important to them to become successful and give in to their enemies. There are willing to do what their enemies what them to do, act how they want them to act, and be someone they’re not because it’s easier. However, it will affect them later in life. You will lose close friends. Your circle will become small. Those you love may give up on you. It’s all part of the process. Remember, what’s meant for you will eventually find its way back.

https://myekajohnsoninc.com/2019/11/07/how-to-succeed-the-non-traditional-way/

The thought of fear:

Fear is the downfall of success. You can fear being successful and you can fear the feeling of failure of not becoming successful. At the end of the day, we all fear what others may think about our lives and what we choose to do with it. People tend to treat you how they see you. This is why so many people work hard to appear successful, but realistically, they are not. Success is a term we use to define who we are and what we have achieved. Many people never become what they would like to become in life because they fear what may happen or not happen. Others fear success because they can’t handle what comes with success. Either way, you may have to deal with things that are uncomfortable but it’s part of the journey. Not allowing yourself to deal with the uncertainty will stop you from growing and maturing into the person you need to be to achieve your success. Allowing it will teach you things about yourself and life that will be beneficial to your future.

https://myekajohnsoninc.com/2019/12/30/success-without-haters-isnt-success/

The Top Ten Things you will go through being successful:

  1. Having haters and others praying and wanting you to fail
  2. Uncertainty of what to do next or how to do it
  3. Uncertainty of where you are going and how
  4. Failure and the embarrassment, shame, and guilt you may feel from it
  5. Lost of friends, family, and those you care for the most
  6. Fear of making the same mistakes
  7. Making the same mistakes
  8. Stages of instability
  9. Fear it may not work out
  10. Feelings of regret, failure, uncertainty, and fear

Turning Thirty and In Debt; Living in New York City

What’s the one thing we all struggle with in adulthood? DEBT! From school debt to credit card debt, we all owe someone something. If you don’t, lucky you. My debt included student loans, money spent starting multiple companies, and moving to different states all in my twenties. At one point my debt was above $90,000. Recently, I watched a video where this 25 year old who makes $70,000 or more a year pays all of her monthly bills, except her student loans. Her student loan debt is $115,000. I met a 23 year old who makes $163,000 a year and paid $12,000 of his student loan debt within five months. They both live in New York City.

Living in New York is expensive. I live in New York City and I make six figures a year with nearly $20,000 in debt. However, I have multiple strings of income and in 2018, I hired an accountant to help balance my income to debt ratio. The main reason for hiring an accountant was so I could purchase my dream home. Before hiring an accountant, I hired a debt relief company to go through my credit report and do an analysis. They help me raise my credit score and decrease my debt.

New York vs. North Carolina

I lived in Uptown Charlotte, North Carolina for three years and two months. Before the statewide quarantine executive order, I worked in both New York and New Jersey through out the week and I commuted and worked 10 hours per day. I spent two of those hours in traffic. LOL! The cost of living in North Carolina is a lot less cheaper than New York. Below shows the difference between my expenses living in both states:

Rent:

NC: $2,300 (two bedroom/two bathrooms/1160 sq ft.)

NY: $3, 200 (1 bedroom/1 bathroom/501 sq ft.)

Transportation:

NC: Less than $100 monthly

NC: $400 monthly

Utilities:

NC: Less than $100 monthly

NY: Nearly $300 monthly

Gas for car:

NC: $100-$150 monthly

NY: $300 monthly (work 6 days a week)

Going out:

NC: $50 -$75 each time

NY: $150 -$200 each time

Insurance (dental, car, renters):

NC: $430

NY: $800

Here is how I got out of debt:

*This is based on the money I had in my savings and having multiple strings of income, which gave me a head start. I also used the money from my retirement. I did not borrow money.

Step #1) I hired an accountant.

Step #2) I consolidated my debt. This will help decrease the interest rate.

Step #3) I created a budget and set saving goals for one year.

Step #4) I called each creditor to see if there were any special offers to reduce amount owed.

Step #5) I paid off the smaller amounts due in full first.

Step #6) I sold things I didn’t need or use anymore.

Step #7) I limited the quantity of non-essential needs (nails, hair, spa, eating out, going out, etc.)

Step #8) I saved a certain amount of money per month.

Step #9) I went generic.

How I raised my credit score:

Step #1) I consolidated my debt.

Step #2) I paid off 50% or more of my debt in a little over a year.

Step #3) I paid my bills on time.

Step #4) I got a credit card to use for small expenses, like gas, food, etc. I paid off the amount spent on the credit card before it was due. (Give or take, within 7 days)

Getting out of debt takes a lot of discipline and a lot of sacrifice. I did not do it alone. Between my accountant, the debt consolidation company, and individuals whose stories and concepts I used, I was able to pay off my debt and raise my credit score. I did however, use my own money. My success as a business owner and my career choices also helped me get out of debt and reach my financial goals.

70 Side Hustles to Try in Your Thirties for Additional Income

Having multiple streams of income can help you out financially. It can also help you learn new skills to better your life in many ways. I was the CEO of a business consulting firm for nearly twelve years and during that time I was able to work with multiple people and businesses that required me and my team to learn new business ideas and concepts to help each client grow and expand their business. As a result, I was able to learn about different businesses or side hustles that helped others bring in additional income. Here is a list of side hustles if you are looking for additional income:

  1. Become a health coach
  2. Become a fitness instructor/personal trainer
  3. Become a makeup artist
  4. Become a hairstylist
  5. Become a nail technician
  6. Become a personal stylist
  7. Become a barber
  8. Start a clothing line
  9. Start a shoe line
  10. Design shoes/clothes/jewelry
  11. Make and sell jewelry
  12. Start a cleaners and tailor business
  13. Sell your art
  14. Learn to cook and sell dinner plates
  15. Learn to bake and sell desserts
  16. Start a cleaning business
  17. Start a lawn care/landscaping business
  18. Start a construction business
  19. Start a painting service business for commercial and residential properties
  20. Become a business consultant
  21. Become a motivational speaker
  22. Tutor
  23. Mentor youth and millennials
  24. Design and build websites
  25. Get into real estate
  26. Buy, flip, and rent property
  27. Become an interior designer
  28. Design and build furniture
  29. Start an upholstery business
  30. Become a welder
  31. Host skills classes
  32. Host workshops
  33. Become a party and event host
  34. Start an event planning business
  35. Become a wedding planner
  36. Offer babysitting services
  37. Offer pet sitting services
  38. House sit
  39. Wash cars
  40. Start a car painting business
  41. Start a car repair business
  42. Become a blogger
  43. Start a content editor business
  44. Get into the entertainment business
  45. Design, create and sell vintage things
  46. Get a second job
  47. Start a food truck
  48. Start a coffee grinding and distribution business
  49. Open a coffee shop
  50. Start a couponing business
  51. Start a wholesale business of any product
  52. Drive Uber or Lift
  53. Become a personal assistant
  54. Start a farm
  55. Go back to school
  56. Get into data entry
  57. Become a travel consultant
  58. Become a photographer
  59. Start a YouTube channel
  60. Start a mobile service business (Ex. Spa on wheels)
  61. Start a phone repair business
  62. Become a personal shopper
  63. Become a personal organizer
  64. Become a tourist guide in your local city
  65. Open a call center
  66. Open a bar or club
  67. Sell antiques
  68. Start a band
  69. Write books
  70. Start a podcast

How I Retired at Age 29

I started a company at age 17.

I started a company called “MJ’s Be YOU LLC” at age 17, which later turned into a business consulting firm called Direct Consultants, LLC.

I joined the military.

This is me after graduating MOS school.

I purchased someone else’s business then flipped it.

I started a company called MJ’s in 2016. We now have MJ’s Closet and MJ’s Closet For Men.

I worked with public figures on different projects.

This is me meeting and working with my favorite basketball player, Allen Iverson, in a commercial for ESPN.

I partnered with other companies to expand my business.

This is me after accepting the partnership with Canvas, a boutique store in Charlotte, for MJ’s.

I wrote a book.

This is my first book called “Peace, Power, Purpose, Prosperity, but what about Perseverance.

I modeled internationally.

This is me modeling for a tourist ad in Hiroshima, Japan.

I used my skill of writing to start a temporary magazine.

This is me after a state meeting discussing how people who are overlooked should be given the opportunity to suggest and execute new ideas for the city. I later wrote about my experience in my magazine called MJ’s Be YOU magazine.

I had multiple streams of income.

I’ve been paid to be drawn for museums and art shows both nationally and internationally.

An artist in Japan paid me to draw my face for her art collection, which was featured in a museum in Japan.

I have been nominated and won several awards.

This is me winning the Armed Forces Appreciation Award from ACHI Magazine in 2017.

I helped other people.

This is me volunteering at Speak Up Magazine. I volunteered at the magazine for three years.

I hosted a temporary TV show that gave local businesses and talent the opportunity to showcase their lives behind the scenes.

This is me filming the introduction for MJ’s Be YOU TV.

I hosted events for entrepreneurs and small business owners.

I did radio, podcast, and TV interviews.

This is me on a flyer to be interviewed by a radio station about my career and business in South Carolina.

I took huge risks.

This is me accepting a job in NY after taking a one-year break from project management.

135 Fun Things To Do in Your Thirties

As you get older, the less time you have to do fun things. However, that does not mean you have to stop having fun and hanging out with your friends. Now, that I am in my thirties and I have a high demanding job, I’ve figured out ways to have fun alone or with friends, even with a busy schedule. I just recently moved to a new city, so meeting new people can be tough, however when I do meet people, these are the things we have done or plan to do this Summer in New York City.

♥ = What I have completed

  1. Host a pool party. ♥
  2. Girl’s night in. ♥
  3. Drink a glass of wine with breakfast. ♥
  4. Sleep in. ♥
  5. Vlog your day. ♥
  6. Get a Henna tattoo.
  7. Host a game night. ♥
  8. Visit a nude beach.
  9. Run in the rain. ♥
  10. Take a cooking class.
  11. Make your favorite drink.
  12. Have a long conversation on the phone. ♥
  13. Go to the beach. ♥
  14. Jump off a cliff.
  15. Get a fish pedicure.
  16. Try a new sport. ♥
  17. Ride in a helicopter.
  18. Host a housewarming. ♥
  19. Hang out with new people. ♥
  20. Know your family history. ♥
  21. Attend a mansion party. ♥
  22. Take lessons in a new skill. ♥
  23. Go on a cruise. ♥
  24. Host or attend a themed party. ♥
  25. Read self-help books. ♥
  26. Try a new restaurant or club. ♥
  27. Watch a black and white film. ♥
  28. Take a DNA test. ♥
  29. Focus on self care. ♥
  30. Dress up in a costume for Halloween. ♥
  31. Attend a pet party
  32. Learn self-defense. ♥
  33. Sleep outside.♥
  34. Invest in something. ♥
  35. Make new friends.♥
  36. Watch a silent film. ♥
  37. Take a break from your career.♥
  38. Attend a wedding or baby shower. ♥
  39. Do a stay vacation. ♥
  40. Learn to play an instrument. ♥
  41. Have a picnic. ♥
  42. Be a bridesmaid.
  43. Binge watch a show you loved in your twenties.♥
  44. Date outside your race. ♥
  45. Host or attend a bonfire. ♥
  46. Visit a farm and pick out fresh food.
  47. Go snowboarding.
  48. Bake something. ♥
  49. Buy your favorite snacks and watch your favorite movie. ♥
  50. Go to a drive-in movie.
  51. Sleep outside.♥
  52. Go to a workout class with a friend.♥
  53. Go to an outdoor event.♥
  54. Get and stay in shape. ♥
  55. Binge watch your favorite movies. ♥
  56. Go on a scavenger hunt.
  57. Create how-to videos.♥
  58. Start a collection.♥
  59. Go surfing.
  60. Get and stay healthy. ♥
  61. Go fishing.♥
  62. Do a bar crawl. ♥
  63. Go to a parade or be in one. ♥
  64. Start a club.♥
  65. Surprise someone. ♥
  66. Tell someone your life story. ♥
  67. Go to grand openings with friends. ♥
  68. Feed an exotic animal. ♥
  69. Run in a marathon.♥
  70. Have sex.♥
  71. Start a business.♥
  72. Shoot a behind-the-scenes video of your career or hobby. ♥
  73. Overcome a fear.♥
  74. Run in a turkey run.
  75. Break a habit.♥
  76. Change your look.♥
  77. Create a skincare routine. ♥
  78. Do something for someone without them knowing. ♥
  79. Volunteer for a cause you are passionate about. ♥
  80. Cook a meal you’ve never had. ♥
  81. Go to a wine tasting.♥
  82. Go to a sporting event.♥
  83. Sell things.♥
  84. Go to a concert. ♥
  85. Fix something on your own.♥
  86. Host a party at your place. ♥
  87. Have a sleepover with the girls.♥
  88. Go ice skating.
  89. Spend a night drinking and dancing.♥
  90. Make a list of things you want to do before you die. ♥
  91. Plan a spa day. ♥
  92. Go thrift shopping. ♥
  93. Remodel your home.
  94. Go skiing.
  95. Take a weekend trip. ♥
  96. House sit.
  97. Ride jet skiis.
  98. Support your friends/family in something important. ♥
  99. Redecorate your place. ♥
  100. Take a baecation. ♥
  101. Learn a new hobby.♥
  102. Get a pet. ♥
  103. Go zip lining.
  104. Buy property and rent it out.♥
  105. Pet sit.
  106. Go back to school or take classes to advance in your career.♥
  107. Become certified in something.♥
  108. Reunite with a friend or old boyfriend. ♥
  109. Wear a color you hate. ♥
  110. Host or go to a boat party.
  111. Buy something really expensive. ♥
  112. Tell a secret.♥
  113. Play a prank on someone. ♥
  114. Donate to a charity. ♥
  115. Compete in something.♥
  116. Baby sit. ♥
  117. Travel. ♥
  118. Try something freaky or something you wouldn’t normally do in the bedroom. ♥
  119. Go to an amusement park or fair.♥
  120. Try a new career.♥
  121. Take a road trip with a friend.♥
  122. Visit friends in other cities.♥
  123. Study a new topic.♥
  124. Try food from another culture. ♥
  125. Go to a magic show. ♥
  126. Make your favorite dessert.
  127. Read a book before watching the movie.♥
  128. Weekend shopping spree.♥
  129. Exercise in freezing weather.♥
  130. Start and finish a project.♥
  131. Get a mentor.♥
  132. Be a mentor.♥
  133. Go to a rooftop bar/party.♥
  134. Adopt a pet.♥
  135. Donate blood.♥

In Demand and on The Go!

I’ve been on the move since mid-May. After retiring as CEO, my focus became becoming a doctor. For the past two months, I’ve been on the go. In May, I was asked to move to New York City to take over a fitness franchise. I was ecstatic. However, I had a week to pack my things in North Carolina and move to New York. I drove back to North Carolina, packed what I could, and moved to New York. I had no idea where I would live, how bad the traffic would be, and how expensive things would cost me in New York. Luckily, I’ve been in situations like this before, so I had an idea on what to do. I want to share tips and ideas for last-minute career changes and how to balance your money, time, and career while living it up in a new city.

What do I do if I need to move and begin working ASAP?

Find new friends prior to moving.

  • Social media can help you socialize with people all over the world. I’ve always been a sociable person so connecting with New Yorkers was easy. The number one thing I looked for when looking for new friends was career related attributes. I am businesswoman, future doctor, model, actress, and head of a fitness company. I took in all of those perspectives and made new friends ASAP.

Where do I live?

  • Find a nice Airbnb or hotel to sleep for at least a week or two. For that time, you’ll have a guaranteed place to shower, eat, get work done and come back to after work. If you need more than two weeks, some Airbnbs will allow you to do a short-term 3 -6 month stay. Hotels are a little expensive, so your best bet is to stay at an Airbnb or ask a friend if you could crash with them.

How do I spend money?

  • Set aside money for food, essentials, commute, tolls, Uber, etc., because when you are in a rush you spend as you go. After a while, the money beings to add up. Create a budget for the first three months of your new move. The first three months are always the most expensive. Your budget should include:
  • Food (include tip money)
  • Travel (gas/toll/Uber)
  • Hotel/Airbnb
  • Emergency cash
  • Personal and hygiene
  • Laundry
  • Groceries
  • Entertainment (shopping/going out)

How do I travel and move at the same time?

  • Pack a traveling suitcase. Even after I moved to New York, I was traveling out of state for work. I packed one suitcase with selective outfits. I packed another with all skincare and hygiene products. I put all of my office supplies and materials were put in an open, untapped box so I would have easy access to them. I packed the rest of my things into boxes. I traveled with the same suitcases and box for a week. Luckily for me, I was able to find an Airbnb they extended my stay for six months. I unpacked my car and put everything in the house. Everything is still in boxes and will resume there until I find my own place.
  • Find a storage location near where you’ll be living. Pay for it and set it up before you hit the road. Fit what you can in your car. If you are bringing a lot of things with you to a new city, you can have everything shipped to your storage prior to moving (really expensive) or you can rent a U-Haul and tow your car.

What are some tools I can use to make my move easier?

Apps:

Airbnb – Finding a place to live.

Google Maps, Apple Maps, or Wase – Finding your way around.

Postmates, Grubhub, or Uber Eats – To order food.

Google Translate – To translate another language

USPS – To quickly change your address and track your packages.

ParkWhiz – To find cheap and convenient parking.

Toll Calc – To determine the amount you’ll pay before taking a specific route that requires a toll.

EzPass – A quick and easy way to get through tolls faster. Using a EZPass gets you discounts. The discounts are based on the city your travelin in.